Dating long distance calls every week
In this series of articles, we will explore each warning sign in more depth so that you will have a better idea about what each sign means and if you need to address a problem in your relationship.
Our second early warning sign of abuse is: Insults you, calls you names This may seem like an obvious warning sign.
The old rhyme “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” certainly isn’t true.
Names, particularly if they are hurled at you by someone who claims to love you, can be terribly painful.
NOTE: We are re-posting this article on Warning Signs – Insults You/Calls You Names to allow you to read some of the excellent comments we’ve received from those who are or have been in an abusive relationship.
Please be aware that these comments are for informational purposes only; we cannot verify the validity of each individual comment.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is one of those obnoxious and inspirational quotes everyone seems to tell couples starting out on their first long distance relationship. It would be a nice sentiment if it wasn’t accompanied by that nagging thought in the back of the speaker’s mind (that they are much too polite to actually say): I give them four months. However, a study in the Journal of Communications has shown that absence might truly make the heart grow fonder and that couples who participate in a healthy long-distance relationship can have more meaningful interactions than couples who see each other daily.
Oh, your boyfriend of three years is going to college out-of-state? Apparently you can judge how meaningful an interaction is. Science aside, my husband and I both agree that the nearly two years of long distance before marriage did the most to strengthen our relationship.
Every time I tell someone that doing the whole “long distance relationship” thing actually strengthened my relationship, they laugh. And more than anything else, these long distance relationships are becoming a viable alternative to breaking up.Or, more specifically, we have both decided that we communicated most efficiently when we lived in different cities.When we had to work for it (Skype, email, video messages, etc), we treasured what the other person said. Between study abroad, job transfers, the “two body problem,” and a million other reasons for couples to live in different cities, long distance relationships are becoming mainstream.On the flipside, you also should not believe the naysayers: Not all long distance relationships fail.In fact, some argue that long distance relationships give you a unique training.